Are We Losing Our Values in the Name of “Modern Freedom”? — A Painful Reflection
Today, I felt compelled to write — not to judge or hurt anyone, but to pause and reflect: am I out of modernity… or do others feel this silent unease too?
During a discussion with media professional, I heard:
“If two adults (18+) mutually agree on a personal relationship, it isn’t wrong — even if it involves multiple partners.”
I respect freedom and choice.
But it made me pause…
Are we evolving, or are we drifting toward a society where emotional depth is seen as old-fashioned and intimacy is casual?
I grew up believing intimacy was sacred — loving, loyal, lifelong — not temporary or replaceable.
And that realization hurts.
Questions That Won’t Leave My Mind
We label women who do it for money as s– workers…
But what about the men who pay for it?
Why is the blame so one-sided?
If extramarital relationships are no longer criminalized…
If adult relationships with multiple partners are socially accepted…
Then why are massage centres with similar activities still considered illegal?
Isn’t that a contradiction?
And with these shifting definitions of “freedom,”
are we making people wary of marriage, trust, commitment, and emotional investment?
These aren’t accusations — they’re real, human questions.
What the Supreme Court Actually Clarified
2018 — Joseph Shine vs Union of India:
Adultery (Section 497 IPC) was decriminalised.
It is no longer a criminal offence, but it is not morally endorsed.
2025 interpretations confirm:
Freedom doesn’t grant a license to break marriages.
A spouse can still pursue civil remedies for emotional harm.
Legal permission ≠ emotional or moral right. ⚖️
Why This Feels Personal
Sometimes I wonder —
Am I too old-fashioned, or are we genuinely losing something priceless?
Commitment feels rare, loyalty seems convenient, trust is fragile, and many shy away from marriage.
Sometimes, I dream of a space
where relationships still hold depth and intimacy still carries meaning.
This isn’t anger — it’s grief.
Grief for fading values, temporary bonds, and love losing its significance.
A Gentle Invitation to Reflect
Let’s pause and ask ourselves:
Just because something becomes legal,
does it automatically become right?
Should freedom override emotional responsibility?
Are we protecting choice
while unintentionally weakening the foundation of families?
Are we truly progressing…
or quietly losing the values that once made us humane?
#Reshma Mohammed
